a reminder to please please please let me know if i’ve been gross or something because forreal
the struggle to unlearn shit is real as fuck and i make mistakes
i’m not perfect and i still do gross shit and i’m working on being a better person and creating safe places for people
i see so many posts that are like “ahhh a friend of mine did something gross and i don’t know how to tell them” like if i’m ever that person please let me know
"Consensual sex" is just sex. To say that implies that there is such a thing as "non consensual sex", which there isn’t. That’s rape. That is what it needs to be called. There is only sex or rape. Do not teach people that rape is just another type of sex. They are two very separate events. You wouldn’t say "breathing swimming" and "non breathing swimming", you say swimming and drowning.
This is a very good point.
realistimagination said: So I get that misandry doesn't exist do to power structure, however what is being described does need a name and people are trying for the best fit. There are women who abuse men and treat ones they can like shit, just misandry is the wrong word.
Yeah, women who abuse men are called abusers, not misandrists. Women who hate men have prejudice against them, but theyre not misandrists. I think people on that post have a hard time grasping that power structures come into play when fighting for equality. They think equality is treating everyone the same and its not. Its about allowing the oppressed to have the same opportunities, freedoms and accessability as the privileged. A lot of bad stuff that’s said about privileged people is not necessarily about that group of people but about the system they’ve built. I say I hate white people a lot but what I really hate is the system favouring white people, and the system.being perpetuated by white people. It allows them to be ignorant of their privilege. So basically, when a woman (though I cant speak for all women) says she hates men the likelihood of her actually hating men is small, she probably hates the patriarchy. And even if she does just hate men, it has such little impact (ie hurt feelings) it doesnt deserve a name. Especially not one that goes hand in hand with word misogyny. It gives the impression that the two are comparable, and they arent.